Well...I got inventive..I was astounded by the fact that if you install the 1.6server,then the 1.61b patch,you get a bf1942ded32 thats 3.24mbs in size......not corrupted,but..as soon as you add mods to the mod folder you can almost watch the DED.exe get overwritten to equal 3.41 mbs...this is the crashing problem.I did a fresh install of the server and the patch and saved the .exe that was 3.24mb,pasted it to my desktop,then placed my mods in the mods folder..DID NOTHING ELSE!!! and went back and looked at the .exe...sure enough it was back to 3.41mb again....weird for sure! so..I made the .exe on my desktop a 'read only' at 3.24mb,pasted in the server files,overwrote,it stayed at 3.24mb and voila,just like the server flashed up and loaded fully!So I guess I made my own damn hotfix!!! Screw EA!
So..If anyone is running into this as well here is the "hotfix"
http://www.dfahq.com/linkdownloads/prog ... hotfix.zip